I am going to say yes... I think anything appears easier when you stand behind your size with conviction. As for me, I love the size I'm in. I could afford to be a bit smaller for health concerns, but I love my size 16/18. And I'm not afraid of the numbers anymore. I feel if I wake up in the morning and no one else has anything nice to say to me or about me... I will say it to myself. It doesn't hurt I am married to a hispanic man who loves every bump and jellyroll.
Look at the hispanic culture, they love SKIN... brown, white, black, polka dot... the issue is not race but the love of what the woman eludes. I'm sure we have all thought why is that hispanic woman wearing her little sister's shirt. And when you stare she just continues on her way with her head held high. Because in her country/culture, any man worth his grain of salt would break his neck to get to her.
However, the United States is convinced that we aren't sexy or beautiful unless we are in the single digits in our size. I disagree. As I told a friend the other day. I get hit on, on an average of 7 times a week. I think that because I am clean, smell good, care about my appearance, and walk like I have diamonds at the meetings of my thighs is the reason for my popularity. I think they notice my smile and confidence first. But by the time they realize I'm plus sized... they are already mesmorized. So maybe not mesmorized, but I tend to think that if size were the issue, I wouldn't get approached as often as I do. From white, black, and hispanic men. Now, I will admit it is usually men of color who tend to make it easier for curvy plus sized women of color. But that doesn't mean you can't help it along as well. Below are images I believe are beautiful, just because this is the American average, not a size 0. But I ask you, my reader... Is it easier? And if you aren't a woman of color, what is your opinion on the subject (yes or no)?
Just a (deep) thought...
For more positive body images...
2 comments:
Now you knew I was gonna have to comment right ? LOL! As your Lighter Sister and wayyy more..." Curvy" Sister, I have to say that I don't think that its necessarily easier for any color. I think that, that like you said. Its the WOMAN that attracts the man,not really so much her size. I have known you for years and you and I come from the school of, " Just because you are a woman of size does NOT mean that you have to be frumpy and wear a MooMoo" I have said this for years. Its not the Big Girl that holds herself back, its the lack of clothing that is available to her that holds her back.
If those "so called" Fashionista's would take a look around they would realize that the( sorry to offend) Skinny Girls are now the Minority, not the other way around.
I think that things have come a long way. I do think that men are starting to realize that they dont have to be closet chubby chasers. ITS OK to openly admit that you find us sexy cause well hell we are DAMN sexy! And we know it ;) Its just time that you all realize it too!
For years guys would never hit on the " fat friend" cause they were afraid of what their "boys" would say. Well thats just it guys, they are "boys" a REAL MAN needs some curves to travel on. And oh what a fun road it is >:)
So, back to the subject, Do I think its easier, no. I think its a hard world out there for any woman who is of size. Its how she chooses to take on the world that makes it easier or harder on her. I choose to stand tall ( on my soap box cause im only 4'11) lol and classfully display my 66" hips for the world to appreciate. I am a 30/32 I can use to be a little smaller for health reasons but, I am comfortable with ME. I know I'm hawt lol! If I get "healthier" than I will just be that much Hotter! So,dont let them getcha down girls! Stand proud! =) Love ya Diva!!!
Now you knew I was gonna have to comment right ? LOL! As your Lighter Sister and wayyy more..." Curvy" Sister, I have to say that I don't think that its necessarily easier for any color. I think that, that like you said. Its the WOMAN that attracts the man,not really so much her size. I have known you for years and you and I come from the school of, " Just because you are a woman of size does NOT mean that you have to be frumpy and wear a MooMoo" I have said this for years. Its not the Big Girl that holds herself back, its the lack of clothing that is available to her that holds her back.
If those "so called" Fashionista's would take a look around they would realize that the( sorry to offend) Skinny Girls are now the Minority, not the other way around.
I think that things have come a long way. I do think that men are starting to realize that they dont have to be closet chubby chasers. ITS OK to openly admit that you find us sexy cause well hell we are DAMN sexy! And we know it ;) Its just time that you all realize it too!
For years guys would never hit on the " fat friend" cause they were afraid of what their "boys" would say. Well thats just it guys, they are "boys" a REAL MAN needs some curves to travel on. And oh what a fun road it is >:)
So, back to the subject, Do I think its easier, no. I think its a hard world out there for any woman who is of size. Its how she chooses to take on the world that makes it easier or harder on her. I choose to stand tall ( on my soap box cause im only 4'11) lol and classfully display my 66" hips for the world to appreciate. I am a 30/32 I can use to be a little smaller for health reasons but, I am comfortable with ME. I know I'm hawt lol! If I get "healthier" than I will just be that much Hotter! So,dont let them getcha down girls! Stand proud! =) Love ya Diva!!!
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