DOTD: Not Dead or Dying

Hola Divas…
I disappeared… I know. I disappeared off twitter and my blog. Why? I was killer swamped and to be honest… I didn’t like any of my clothes. I’ve put on so much weight and nothing fits. So I was allowing it to affect who I was… and then something happened the other day… I got over myself. I stopped hating my extra poundage, and I stopped hating my hair (that is another issue within itself… but I digress). I decided that if I was going to be a TRUE blogger… I would find a way to love my hair and my body and bring my readers along for the ride. And then yesterday… this outfit came to me. And then I knew I had tapped into a bit of the old me.

Soooo…. here I am… wearing my favorite color and rocking a new way to showcase my natural hair. I have to admit… I really like it… and this is what being a FATshionista is all about… it’s about finding a way to… “Make it work” (in the famous words of Tim Gunn). I hope you like this… I hope not to disappear any more… but if I do it will be work related… not because I don’t love myself. I also am trying to find new places/ways to take pictures… because the hallway is so dark. I can’t wait until I can do outside pics again… daylight can’t come fast enough.

I hope this post finds you well… Have you had any body issues this winter? Are you finding ways around it? Do you like my natural updo? Are you wearing natural hair? How have you dealt with those “in between moments”? I can’t wait to convo with you… Hasta la proxima ~besitos~

P.S. I’ve officially been blogging for 2 years (totally missed my anniversary)

What I Wore While Feeling Naturally Diva:
Studded Blazer: Burlington Coat Factory
Purple Tank/Scarf/Flower: Target
Jeans: Wal-mart
Studded Shoes: ShoeDazzle
Earrings: beauty supply

DOTD: Unable To Tebow With Lace Trimmings

So I tried something new on my last post and I feel like maybe it wasn’t the best time to be creative. So today I have returned to what is normal and expected of my blog. An outfit post, I have to admit that later I switched out the boots to a pair of moto-boots which I feel was a better look. Or maybe it was because it was so comfortable that my mind just felt it was a better look… lol

So while taking these pictures, I couldn’t seem to think of any new poses, so my hubby being the comedian that he is recommended that I do a Tebow. He said that other bloggers are doing it (apparently someone has been Googling images without a chaperone… lol) and that I should jump on the bandwagon. But anyone who knows me… knows that I don’t like to follow the leader… so… no matter how humorous my hubby’s suggestion was… I just couldn’t Tebow. Besides, how could I possibly in this lace print mini-skirt?

So how are you doing today? Were you off yesterday? Did you do anything to celebrate civil rights? (Actually… how would you celebrate that? A parade perhaps?) Are there any poses you won’t do because they’ve been “overdone”? (i.e., planking, tebowing, & etc). What do you think of today’s look? Hasta la proxima ~besitos~

What I Wore While Hubby Made Me Giggle:
Pink Lace Cami: Newport News
Lace Print Skirt: Wet Seal Plus 
Tights: Silkies
Black Top: Target (Pure Energy)
Lace Booties: Alloy 
Earrings: beauty supply

Daydreams…

Hola Divas…
So before I was a blogger, I was a avid short story writer. Not that you could tell from that last blog post that seemed to bounce around from subject to subject like an A.D.H.D. 10 year old off his meds. But since it’s been soooo long since I have written anything I was beginning to feel like I had lost my ability to write anything. So I figured that since I have this blog I could use this as a way to do some of my writing. I hope you like it…

Daydreams…
I close my eyes and exhale and allow myself to relax and go into my other realm. In this place I have no worries. I leave my career that I love and hop into my car that is paid for and head home. As I pass all the homes in my neighborhood I feel  a sense of accomplishment for how far we’ve come. I walk into my home and yell to see if anyone is home, there are notes on the whiteboard explaining the whereabouts of everyone. I see that I have at least 2 hours of free time, just for me.

I make my way up the stairs with my stilettos in hand and walk into my closet that was once a small bedroom that my husband converted, because he had no where to put his clothing. I put down my stilettos in the place from which I had retrieved them earlier that morning. While in my “closet” I change into something more comfortable. As I walk past my bedroom, I contemplate laying down in my bed and using this alone time to sleep, but no… that is not what is driving me at the moment. I walk downstairs and look into my office/gym and think about spending some time on the elliptical or treadmill. No… I can exercise later when I need to escape the chaos of family life. Now I am driven to do something else. I make my way to my kitchen and turn on my touchscreen recipe pad that is conveniently placed on my refrigerator. I decide to make my family something new that they have not yet tried but I hope they will enjoy. I spend the next 2 hours making a fabulous dinner including dessert in my double ovens and my gourmet kitchen. This time is where I get my best ideas for my clients that visit my business as a stylist and wardrobe re-designer.

When my family arrives home, they arrive to dinner made and mom/wife smiling with accomplishment. We discuss our day and after we are all full and satisfied we go to the family room and watch television. Later that evening while preparing my outfit for the following day, I think about how far we’ve come as a family and how much we have grown as people. As I slip into the bed that I had earlier avoided, next to my sleeping husband, I say a silent prayer to God thanking him for all the blessings he has bestowed upon my family. As I nod off to sleep my dreams are filled with the present, because my life is what my dreams once were, so there is nothing more I could wish for but more days like today. The End.

How do you like it? I hope to put up more things that I have written, some are not for the light hearted but I love to write so I decided to begin with something a little tame. I wanted to include a picture in today’s post but I just… was too lazy and still a little sick. So the last thing I wanted to do is take pictures of my red/puffy eyed self… lol. I hope you enjoyed today’s post that is not anything like what I’ve done before. I hope you enjoy the future short stories I am prepared to share with you all. Hasta la proxima ~besitos~

DOTD: New Year… now what?

So it is a new year and I should be super stoked right? Well… I’m perplexed. And its not because I’m being a pessimist… its because I just wanted more. I realized that I am in my mid-thirties and I am no where near where I would like to be. I would like to be in a home. I would like to have a true career. And I would like to have a savings that could pay my bills if I lost my job for a year. But instead I get an apartment where my neighbors are constantly selling drugs out in front and then get an attitude if you don’t speak to them. Seriously? I don’t want to speak to you because you are doing illegal activity where my children walk out to go to school… so no… I’m not your biggest fan. As for my “career” I work a job where one moment they are nice the next minute… not so much. My boss quit and since leaving 2 weeks ago has already begun to lose weight… and I’ve gained weight since I started working here. I think it’s the stress and just generally the way people talk to me. I’m broke… my truck is sitting out front not moving until I can get the money together to get it fixed (hopefully this weekend).

All in all… I do know I am blessed… I still have my hubby who is trying his best not to jump off a bridge. I have my beautiful girls who both just celebrated birthdays. And I have my son who is doing his best to stay out of trouble (Thank you, Jesus!!).  So I said all this as a preamble to the fact that I swore I would blog more more even if it was life posts… and then… I didn’t blog a darn thing. And that is because I have been swamped and then when I get home I am so exhausted all I want to do is put head to pillow…Anyway… here is an Divalook Of The Day (DOTD) to give you some eye candy (yeah right… I look absolutely tanked in these pictures). Please ignore my face of exhaustion… lol

But enough about me… How are you? How is the “new year” treating you? Can you tell that the tights I’m wearing are floral print… lol? Hasta la proxima ~besitos~ **sidebar: Yes I do speak spanish… I hope to be able to record a spanish youtube video soon**

What I Wore While Contemplating My Future:
Gray/Yellow Dress: ASOS Curve
Blazer: Curve Appeal Consignment
Floral Tights: Assets by Spanx (JCPenney)
Yellow/Gray/Black Stilettos: ShoeDazzle
Necklace: Charming Charlie
Earrings: beauty supply
Flower: Target

2012 Blog Declaration

It’s 2012 and with a new year comes new thoughts on what you expect of the year and where you want to see yourself at the end of that year. First let me begin by saying that I do believe that we will live to see 2013 because I am not one to believe in the 12/21/12 end of the world thing. Not saying you can’t believe it (because my hubby believes and he mentions it everyday)… just saying I don’t.  Anyway… back to my point. As last year was a rollercoaster ride of bad decisions and just horrible crying spells I want this year to be the year of laughter and just living life. So this blog is going to change a bit. It will still contain my usual outfits only it may not contain as many as you are accustomed. I want to make this a LIFEstyle blog with emphasis on the LIFE part. I want to include more pictures of my children and my hubby. I want you to see that my life is not only outfits and shoes. I want you to get to know… ME.

This was a hard decision to make because I know that if you have been with me since day one that you may not like the changes I plan on implementing but I have to be true to myself and I am much more than fashion. I am more than makeup. And I am more than shoes. I am a mother, an avid reader, a tech enthusiast, a wife, and a friend. I want you to know what books I’m currently reading and enjoying. I want you to know what happened during my day. I want you to know what means the most to me and what makes me…. well… ME. Now I won’t give you everything… I won’t overwhelm you with my hectic crazy life… but I will let you see that I am a 3 dimensional person who does not just play a fashionable character on my blog. With that said… I hope you will come along for the ride. 

 

Another decision I have made is this… the wigs are gone. I may “occasionally” wear them for fashion flair… but as for everyday… I want my daughter to know and see that I love my hair and that she should too. She made a statement recently that cut me to the bone about how she “HATES” her hair curly because it’s ugly. And that hurt me. I love letting her get her hair straightened…  but I don’t want her to think that her curly locks are not her own. So I will rock my hair and the occasional protective style… but will try to avoid weaves and wigs going forward.  To start the year off… here is a picture of me today at work with my glasses on and my hair curled out…

Now in case you’re wondering… yes… I will continue to do Diva Spotlights, “Lo Quiero Ahora” wishlist posts, ShoeDay Saturday posts and I will continue to shout out Diva Bloggers I find along the way. But I won’t let it takeover my life and my family… I want to find the happy medium of blogging and living because you can’t live life behind a laptop.  Well… that is my 2012 declaration and I hope I won’t lose you as a reader/follower/friend… Hasta la proxima ~besitos~